This is a million dollar question: Is gender equality possible?
Contemporary society seems to be freer from taboos and the old belief that women are the weaker gender, than the past. But is it really so?
Women have always been considered inferior, not at the same level of men.
Men can do the hardest jobs because of their physical superiority; they are allowed to do what they want without being judged; they can go with escorts without being considered of easy virtue; they can wear whatever they want everywhere in the world, instead arabian women have to wear burqa, and all women in the world are looked badly if they wear less clothes; they can walk on the street without being harassed; and so many other things.
Through human history and evolution, men and women had always separate roles: men to hunt/work and women to take care of children and look after the house.
Nowadays the roles have been converted and linked together, as the two sexes can do the same things and vice versa.
But still, if a fleshy and less attractive man applies for a job he will have more chances than a fleshy and less attractive woman, compared to a good looking woman.
That’s sexism, and it is radicated to the deepest part of human brains.
In the past women were mistreated, violented and considered only a mean to the end of procreation.
They only had to obey to their fathers and husbands without saying a word.
Luckily, today, in most parts of the world, especially Occident and socially developed areas, women managed to have rights, to defend themselves, and to be considered more as thinking human being.
Still, in some countries, where the mentality stays unchanged or slightly modified, women cannot be fully the same way as men.
Even if these situations are currently smoothed out, the thought of women being inferior is spreaded everywhere, even if we all are convinced of the contrary.
Inside of us there might be a hidden spark of judgement, maybe transmitted by our father or grandfather unconsciously, or in some ways consciously.
Older generations can affect us, especially if it comes from our parents, who have experienced life differently from us, and themselves affected by their parents, and so on.
Oldest is the generation, the more impossible is the thought of fairness.
Most fathers have taught us girls that a lot of things weren’t right to do, like going out at night, being in a crew with boys in it; on the other hand, our brothers could do whatever they pleased.
I wonder why women at that time haven’t rebelled to this oppressing situation.
Maybe because they would have been beaten with brute force and cannot defend themselves.
What changed? Men remain the same, they could beat us the same way they did before.
Maybe they have become more sensitive.
So, men have changed.
And women stopped to be victims and started to take control.
Now, more and more men are even pleased to have a woman partner that shows that is clever, has a job/income, and has her independence.
Women in relation to other women can be mean sometimes.
See the case of a woman that sees a naked picture of another woman and judges her in the first place.
This is about feminism, and maybe a totally different kind of subject than the one we are talking about today.
But the meaning is the same: judgement.
Judgement can be the cause of gender inequality.
Whenever I’m judging you, I’m considering you at a lower level than mine.
This happens more with men because of their inclination to brute force, who in most cases think they are entitled to the right to do everything.
Women, instead, are more sensitive and guided by feelings, less incline to violence.
We’re talking about machismo, which can be heavy and degenerates into violence, or subtle in some public jokes and conversations.
Besides from this, and this subtly answers to the question: “Is gender equality possible?” from my point of view, human kind is always full of hate and intolerance.
Even if some individuals are free from prejudice, there will always be humans who keep hating and discriminating others. See racism.
Racism comes from the inability to accept other’s diversity, of any kind.
But diversity is present everywhere in nature. Diversity of species, of plants, etc…
The diversity in male and female is made to complement each other.
Gender equality would be possible in a hypothetical and idealised world where everyone accepts others like themselves, with love and respect.
What would be right is to follow the moral that all humans have to be equal because are born equally the same way.
Although this is impossible, simply because we don’t completely want full equity.
Us women want to still keep maternity leave when we give birth, and some other positivities we couldn’t have otherwise.
Whether equity might not be possible, tolerance could become possible.
I do believe that tolerance is at the top of the list for social liberation, and only with that thought in mind, we could defeat racism and free ourselves and our kind from hatred and oppression.
Guest Post by Erika Agostino: Beauty, Fashion, and Lifestyle blogger at MakeUp Fun